Last week my wife and I went away for a few nights to celebrate our wedding anniversary. It was the first time in 5 years that the kids had been away from both of us for 3 nights. And while they enjoyed the time spent with their grandparents, I think we enjoyed the time away just as much.
We got to do things that were simple but something that we never seem to get time to do anymore. We went on walks, ate dinner at a leisurely pace, sat around and read books/newspapers etc. Most importantly we got to talk….without being interrupted.
We love our kids and we live for them. They make our lives worth living and give us joy and enjoyment every day and in everything that they do. However, spending alone and quality time just with my wife made me realise how much I still loved her and why I had fallen in love with her all those years ago.
Most of the conversations reverted back to the kids, however they ranged from the past – funny/interesting things they had done – to the future – what lay ahead for them. It gave us pause to realise that time was fleeting and how their personalities had developed the past few years.
I think sometimes, we get so caught up with living our lives, doing the daily chores, that we don’t pause to reflect on what we have. It is a fault that I have and I am sure others do too. Kids are relentless, chores are never ending, house work is limitless, work is time consuming and balancing it all stressful. However, spending just a few days alone with my life partner, the person I want to share everything with, the person who makes me laugh and makes me angry more than anyone else in the world, the person who completes me – made me realise how lucky my life really was.
The dishes can wait …while I give my kids another hug, the late night work can be paused … while I give my wife another hug. Most importantly jobs and chores can be delayed while I enjoy the moment that is now.